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People who are very high in extrinsic goals for wealth are more likely to attain that wealth, but they're still unhappy," Ryan told me.
Or as Deci put it, "The typical notion is this: You value something. You attain it. Then you're better off as a function of it. But what we find is that there are certain things that if you value and if you attain them, you're
worse off as a result of it, not better off."
Failing to understand this conundrum - that satisfaction depends not merely on having goals, but on having the right goals - can lead sensible people down self-destructive paths.
One of the reasons for anxiety and depression in the high attainers is that they're not having good relationships. They're busy making money and attending to themselves and that means that there's less room in their lives for love and attention and caring and empathy and the things that truly count, " Ryan added.
Ref : Daniel Pink, Drive - The surprising truth about what motivates us.