Any time you think the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem!

"How easy it is for people to think and feel, "I'm a victim; I've tried everything; there's nothing more I can do; I'm stuck."
My response to their question usually shocks them a little. This is what I say:

"Any time you think the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem."

Reference : Stephen Covey, Book : 'The 8th Habit', pg 128.